Someone has very rightly said, ‘Having a kid is like continually having to clean-up after a party you didn’t attend’ and that clean-up starts with diaper duties! Although most potty training tips are common for boys and girls, training boys to use potty seats is a little more challenging.
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What is Potty Training?
The process of training little children to use the toilet for peeing and pooping is what potty training is all about. As babies, children are used to diapers. But as they grow into toddlers, it is important to train them to use toilets, and this must be done at the right age.
Potty training doesn’t start with making children use toilets right away. They learn to do that gradually.The complete phase of transitioning from diapers to using proper toilets is called potty training. So, here is a systematic guide that clearly states all the do’s and don’ts of potty training boys.
How to Start Potty Training for Boys
To start with, potty training a toddler boy requires a lot of patience, and it is believed that they stay in diapers longer than girls. Motivation is another key factor that will help you train your little boy to use a potty seat. The following are some things your could keep in mind before you begin to toilet train your little boy-
Age plays a huge role in getting your son potty trained without any hassle. A parent must start the training when the little boy is willing to learn or even more so when he is physically able to cope with the training.
While some boys may be ready for toilet training as soon as they turn 2, some may be ready only after their third birthday.Toilet training at 3 years may sound like it is very late, but if your toddler is not ready, you mustn’t insist on getting him trained.
Also, if your little boy is coping with other changes like the arrival of a new sibling, change of school or travelling, it is advisable to wait till he has emotionally coped with these changes before introducing anything else.
- Initially, you will need to train your baby to poop in a small potty seat. But even before you get there, you need to chalk out a holistic plan. You must decide how and when to start, how to take care of accidents if any, and be prepared to be flexible and even back off if necessary.Your son’s initial progress may make you happy, but if he shows any sign of regress, then you must be prepared to pause and start after some time. Also, before you start, consult your child’s paediatrician and day care provider.
Their valuable inputs based on experience may be really helpful. Once you are ready with a plan, share it with everyone who is involved in taking care of the baby and ensure that they stick to it, as far as possible.
- Potty training time will vary from one child to another. Hence, it is important for parents to take it slow. Potty training your toddler boy during the day may be easier compared to training toddlers to stay dry at night, which will take longer.
When Do You Start Toilet Training a Toddler?
There is no definite time defined by any expert to start potty training. It has been roughly put around 18 months to 3 years old, and there may also be some children who are receptive to potty training only when they are close to 4. But before you start, you must look out for certain signs that will indicate that the child is ready.
Signs of Potty Training Readiness for Children
To make it easy for new parents, experts have put together some definite signs to look out for before you start making plans to potty train their kids These signs have been categorised into physical, behavioural and cognitive signs.
- Physical signs: Firstly, you may want to check if your baby boy is physically developed enough to walk. You may also want to wait till your baby pees a fair amount at one go and also has a well-formed bowel movement at a foreseeable time. Also, having a dry time of at least 2 to 3 hours or so during nap time will come very handy while making your plans around potty training your son.
- Behavioural Signs: You need to wait until your baby can sit quietly in one place for at least five minutes. He should also be able to pull his pants up and down on his own When a child starts disliking the feeling of being in a wet diaper or starts giving physical or verbal signs of bowel movement, it is a good indication to start with potty training. Also, if you observe him showing an interest in other’s bathroom habits, it is time to chalk out a plan to help him form his own. Other important behavioural traits include demonstrating a desire for independence, taking pride in his accomplishments and being cooperative.
- Cognitive Signs: The following cognitive development milestones are also important while potty training a 2 year old. The child should be able to understand physical signals and should also be able to give signals themselves whenever necessary. Being able to follow simple and straightforward instructions is another cognitive development milestone that is necessary before starting any training at all. Experts also emphasise that learning to tidy up their toys is more important for children than learning to keep themselves clean. They should also have some code word for stool and urine which they can use to communicate whenever they must pee or poop.
The signs mentioned above can help parents to determine potty training age for boys.
Potty Training Tips for Boys
As parents, it is important to be fully prepared to help the baby achieve each milestone with confidence. These toilet training ideas will help you to get over this phase of your child’s development without much hassle.
- Children love to imitate. Hence, the best way to potty train a boy is to let him observe his daddy using the toilet when peeing. Very soon he will be intrigued and would like to try it out himself.
- It is important to go about the training step by step. Experts suggest that it is always helpful to train the child to go potty in a child-sized potty where he can sit comfortably, and his legs touch the ground. This will also give him a sense of possession, and he may just think of it as a new toy where he can poop peacefully. This needs to be followed if you are starting as early as 18 months old. However, if you start the training at the age of 3 or older, then you can just buy a comfortable adapter seat for your toilet. In this case, though, you will also have to put a footstool in front of him, so that he sits comfortably without his legs dangling. This will also come in handy to get on and off the potty easily and independently.
An extra piece of advice is to buy a potty seat without a urine guard.
- The next phase is to help the child get comfortable with the potty. Create a sense of possession for the potty seat in your child. Write your boy’s name on it or even decorate it with some stickers. Let him playfully sit on it for a week or so before you suggest that he takes his pants off and sits on it . You can also do a role-play on how to use the potty seat. Use his favourite stuffed doll or animal toy for demonstration. This makes the whole process of potty training enjoyable for him and easier for you.
- Motivate your child to become like his dad or elder brother. Tell him that he can choose his favourite underwear and wear it like his father and brother do. If he is initially uncomfortable, let him try wearing them on top of the diaper. Slowly he should be willing to ditch the diaper and wear only underwear.
- Setting up a training schedule based on your personal schedule and your son’s time table is very important. If your son goes to a day care or pre-school, do share your potty training strategy with them. Since your son will take his own time to learn, keep some diapers and disposable pants handy for night time and travel.
- Bowel movements and the tendency to urinate usually come at the same time. Hence, it is advisable to make your son sit first. Avoid making him sit for too long as he will avoid trying it from very next time. Once your son starts pooping and peeing in a sitting position, teach him how to stand and pee. Once again, a demonstration from daddy with by helpful. You can also float some oval shaped object for target practice, but please remember that should be your last resort as it can become very messy.
- Around the time he usually has bowel movements, take off his pants and let him be for some time. Keep the potty seat handy so that as soon as you see the signs you can make him sit on it.
- Celebrate each success by rewarding him with stickers or stars. That will keep him inspired. If you don’t succeed the first time, do try repeatedly till you get there; but remember to do so with lots of love, patience, innovation and positive reinforcement. You can also buy him picture books and cartoon CDs around potty training and let him watch them. They are usually fun, and children love watching and learning from them.
- Once your baby boy has learned to stay dry all day, it is time to move to night-time training. This will take a longer time as it will require him to hold his urine for a certain period. If your little boy wants to sleep without diapers, let him do that. A few days will be experimental, and he may wet the bed, but slowly he will learn to wake up for peeing and then eventually will hold his urine for the rest of the night. This training may take weeks or even months.
Do’s & Don’ts while Potty Training Boys
The above mentioned potty training steps will clear any doubts that new parents may have about toilet training boys. Here are some dos and don’ts to summarise what we have discussed so far.
- Show a lot of patience
- Look out for physical, behavioural and cognitive signs before you start
- Take valuable tips from his preschool teachers or day care providers before chalking out a plan
- Make it fun and motivational by trying out various innovative methods. Get books and CDs around it and let him watch. Also, celebrate each achievement by rewarding him
- Don’t push him or constantly insist once you start
- Do not try to achieve all levels at one go
- Do not chide him or compare him to someone else
- Do not show any signs of frustration. That will make him regress
Nothing about parenting is a cakewalk, but we hope the potty training tips for boys, penned down in detail in this article, will help young parents to get over this patience-testing time easily.